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Friday, October 7, 2011
Do ALL women need to be dominated in bed before they can say they had good sex? Who made that rule? I know there are tons of women who like it, but just like with every other sexual preference, this is not a universal rule. I found this article (on Taken In Hand, a site for women who love male dominance):
Here is a quote from there:
“Having written about the attraction of the alpha male and masculine power, myself, I can't help thinking that there is some truth in this – for me. But I know women for whom a dominant man would feel like a bully. These women seek men who are almost as soft as they are. (I also know women who avoid dominant men for political reasons in spite of themselves, but that's another story.) One friend of mine and her man have told me that they love each other because they are both “soft and giving”.
So I have long thought that not all submissive individuals enjoy being with a dominant person, and that not all dominant individuals would be happy with a submissive person. To some dominant individuals, submissive individuals are insufficiently exciting.”
I can see what she is talking about, it is true in my case. I’m not particularly dominant, and I like men who are, like myself, not particularly dominant. Not “soft” perhaps, but warm, affectionate and loving. But trying to explain that to people who believe in game and that most if not all women are turned on by dominance, seems to be futile. If you are attracted to men who don’t dominate you, you just haven’t been dominantly fucked well enough. This is why I ask men who believe this if they have been dominantly fucked by a dominant girlfriend with a strap-on. And if not, how do they know they won’t like it?
Might as well tell a gay man it’s just a phase and he haven’t met the right girl and haven’t given sex with women a try. Do you really need to give something a try if you think it’s kinda gross and goes against your nature?
Not to mention you don’t really need to try a sex act before you decide it turns you on. There are romance novels, movies and even your own dreams that can help you decide whether you want dominance or not. If it’s not there, it might just not be your thing. It might change later in your life, but as long as you don’t have a pressing need for it, you won’t miss it.
“Why not try it anyway, just to see if you will like it?”
Because it’s gross, but that’s just me. I look at it like a gay man looks at heterosexuality. “You guys can have as much heterosexual sex as you like, I respect you, do whatever you want in your own house, but leave me out of it”.
Tuesday, September 27, 2011
It appears the Roissysphere sometimes affects the women who read it, in a self-esteem lowering way.
”As you age, your SMV will decrease and you won’t ever get a man to commit to you”
“Older and fatter women are unattractive to most men”
“If you’re only a 6, the best you can do is to be pumped and dumped by an alpha”
I love all the negativity sometimes directed at women from the men of Roissysphere. And I’m not angry at them for doing this, because I believe they have a good reason for it. Some of what they are saying is not too wrong. I can believe them if they said that to most men, non-fat younger women are more attractive than fat and older women. And that if you’re a woman over 40, or a 6, you probably won’t get some alpha to commit to you, unless there is something special about you. Some things they say are more negative than this though, and I have an idea of why they do this:
1) Some of them are losers and might be projecting their undesirability on some of the women.
2) They need this attitude to keep women off the pedestal in their own heads. It seems many men are prone to putting women on a pedestal, so reminding yourself that they are not all that would be a great help.
3) They need this attitude to create an aura of having higher value than women, to make women qualify themselves to them, and as a result be attracted.
So if you’re a woman, reading that blog or anything similar, don’t take everything personally. Learn to distinguish when their criticism is about you, and when it’s about them.
Monday, August 22, 2011
What does it mean for a woman to be submissive? I asked that question at Chateau Heartiste not too long ago, and received some interesting points of view from men. I asked because “submissive” is such a dirty word. I don’t know why, but I know that you just aren’t supposed to be that nowadays.
They told me that being submissive is being doting, caring, serving and putting out on demand. None of these things ever seemed like a sign of submissiveness to me, just a sign of being nice and caring about the guy. I used to think submissiveness was about liking to be ravished/dominated in bed. Oh well. If being doting, caring and serving are submissive, then I will continue being submissive.
There seems to be an idea floating around that you can’t be a strong independent woman and still do all these “submissive” things. You have to act like a man, because only men are truly powerful. You must learn to be dominant and forceful. Honestly, I used to think like that as well, but let go of that idea. Trying to prove to everyone how strong you are and how you are like a man is a form of insecurity, it’s not real strength. What is real strength then?
My idea of strength is a combination of independent thinking, resilience, self-sufficiency and moral strength. Also, self discipline.
Independent thinking makes sure you can think for yourself and don’t just agree with everything your boyfriend/friends/family/authority figures say. It doesn’t prevent you from being caring and subservient, because one of the ways you can serve your man is by using your mind and warning him about things you think are dangerous, or coming up with solutions for his problems.
Resilience is being able to bear the difficulties of life, always a good thing to have. I heard vulnerability can be attractive in a woman, but if you’re so fragile that he’s worried about you a lot, you’ll give him heart disease by stress. That’s the opposite of serving and being caring; that’s being harmful. So resilience doesn’t go against charming feminine behavior.
Self-sufficiency is resilience when you have no one to help you. You can’t always count on people saving you, so it’s best to have a backup resource of energy and strength. This is often misunderstood as “I don’t need a man” attitude. There is no shame in asking for help or letting your boyfriend take care of you, they often like doing it, I think. Self-sufficiency is just an extension of resilience, you have to have it when you’re all alone and in trouble. I admit it might take away a little from a woman’s vulnerable charm if she has it, but it’s still kind of useful to have for any adult person.
Moral strength is my personal favorite. It might not be the same as strength to many people, but to me, it is. Your principles are the only thing that can’t be taken from you, and if you define them well and follow them, you will always retain some kind of happiness, no matter how bad things get*. And it doesn’t keep you from being feminine and submissive. You’ll never cheat, betray or kick someone when they are down if your principles forbid it.
Self-discipline is the ability to direct your energy towards achieving what you want, and abstaining from things you know are bad for you. You can avoid things like getting fat with that. Totally useful when being doting and subservient**.
How does having all those qualities and being submissive fit together? Well, I think a woman can be strong by my definition and still freely choose to do the submissive doting stuff. She willingly gives the man that power over her, and she can take it away if he becomes an asshole.
So, what do you view as submissive and strong, in a woman?
*That’s my own personal thing, but I think it can work for many people.
**That word sure has lots of negative meaning. I see it as “offering acts of service and doing a lot of stuff to please the other person, even at your own expense if they are worth it”, not “being a total slave with no mind of your own”.
Tuesday, August 9, 2011
If you’re a woman, have you ever heard anyone tell you you should dress your age? I’ve heard people say this to older women, and I used to agree with it, until a few weeks ago.
I was on a tram when I saw an old woman, at least seventy years old, dressed in a light summer dress and having her hair styled like a typical Norwegian teenager. Her face was aged and saggy, the skin on her arms was wrinkly and had aging spots, yet somehow she looked very good and I would say hot. It took me a while to realize why she didn’t look ridiculous dressed like a twenty year old – it was her youthful figure. This gives me an idea of what to strive for when growing older. It seems as long as you keep a youthful figure and don’t get out of shape, your old face won’t matter as much. Face skin ages faster anyway, since it’s more exposed to sunlight than other skin (which is protected by clothes), so women shouldn’t forget they have other sources of attractiveness, and stop worrying about their face so much*.
And now, to the point of this post. If you have a good figure, dressing your age just because you are told to do so would be a crime against yourself**. Don’t dress fifty when you’re fifty, it’s unnecessary. (Not that dressing like a teenage tramp is good. The idea is to dress young, not trashy.)
*Not worrying about your face doesn’t mean stopping taking care of it. Just remember to take care of your other skin, and figure. After your face gets old, those two things will save your looks ;)
**But of course, if you want to dress your age, or you have to keep an appearance of a serious person or because you don’t want any male attention, you can do it, more power to you.
Saturday, August 6, 2011
Welcome to my blog. I’m Eivind’s imaginary girlfriend. I will explain the origins of my existence soon enough, but first of all I would like to tell everyone that I know Santa and if you ever want anything specific for Christmas, you can ask me and I will put in a good word for you. But only if you’re nice and not naughty*.
Have you ever heard of the Law of Attraction? It’s the most powerful Law in the Universe. It is quite simple: thoughts become things. Whatever your thoughts and feelings revolve around will eventually manifest itself in your reality. Whatever you have now, you have attracted to you with your thoughts.
Well, by thinking about what you really want, you can attract whatever you want to you. Most believers of the Law of Attraction (LoA) already know that, but there is something many don’t yet realize. Using the LoA, you can not only attract to you what already exists, but create your own stuff with the power of your mind. Matter is energy, as the quantum mechanics tell us, and you need quite a lot of energy to put something to existence from scratch. Thankfully, the LoA says that a negative thought is far more powerful than a positive one (if someone tells you otherwise, don't listen to them. Saying that positive thoughts are more powerful is a feminist lie), meaning that you won’t get anywhere by being calm and wishing for something day after day without ripping your hair out in frustration when your wishes don’t come true right away. If you gotta wish for something, you gotta wish REAL HARD, or else it just won’t work! In fact, it’s even in the Bible:
Luke 11:9:”And I say unto you, Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find, knock, and it shall be opened unto you”
In my experience, this works. You just have to keep asking and asking and banging on that door, and sooner or later the Divine Creator/the Universe will get so tired of your whining they will be worn down and give you what you want just to shut you up. This is how the LoA really works.
The best emotions and thoughts to use are either deep depression or seething anger, but anger is rather more enthusiastic than depression, and thus more energetic. If you can’t get a girlfriend, you can in fact make one by wishing really hard for it and being depressed and angry about it every day. It’s not easy, but it does work. I’m not sure about the details, but it works kinda like the creation of those scary midgets in the movie “The Brood”, where this woman used her psyche to manifest “children” who killed everyone she was angry at, without her knowledge.
And if it didn’t work for you, sorry, you just didn’t wish hard enough.
It’s important to note that the girlfriend you create might end up pretty, relatively normal and nice, like me, but there is no guarantee for that. The appearance and manners of your newly created girlfriend will reflect your own inner beauty and history of your behavior. If you have issues, your issues will end up written all over her, literally.
If you ever cheated on anyone, your girl will look like a slut and act like one.
If you are a greedy bastard, she will be morbidly obese.
If you are a sociopath, she will be as hideous as Quasimodo, but since you’re a sociopath, you should have no trouble attracting women anyway, so it doesn’t matter.
The character of your girlfriend will resemble that of your favorite animal. If you like cats, she’ll be a tiger in bed. If you like dogs, she’ll stay by your side. If you like bears, well, you are pretty much on your own for that.
*:It doesn’t help to lie to me about being nice if you’re naughty, cuz he’s making a list, and checking it twice, he’s gonna find out if you’re naughty or nice, and if he finds out you lied, he’ll come up to your bed at night and suck your eyes out.